Whether you are 16 or 30, a first date can be awkward. This may be your very first date ever, or it could be the first date after a divorce. You have probably spent hours getting ready for the date and felt all of the pre-date jitters. It is essential that you unwind and understand that your date is probably just as tense as you are.

Knowing what to say or what to talk about on a first date is not as complicated as it seems. It is also not as easy as it sounds either. You would think that small talk should come easily, I mean, small talk is exactly that, minor, modest, and to the point. But, when you are considering small talk on a first date, it takes on a whole new meaning.

Learning what to talk about on a first date is simple. You first have to relax and try to be cool. You don’t want to be so nervous that you are tongue-tied and mixing up your words.

Once you have made one or two flubs like this you are bound to make more because now you will be embarrassed by the initial flub.

Second you will want to praise your date. This can be as simple as saying “you look nice” to “the color of your blouse really brings out your eyes.” Do not make too many compliments, you do not want to come off as being cheesy or fake.

After you are relaxed and have made a compliment, the next topic of conversation needs to be simple and not to personal. You are not ready to start getting personal with your date. Bring up some type of current event. Be yourself as much as possible. If you are not into pop culture, do not bring up pop culture. If you are not big into politics, do not bring up politics.

It is tempting to try to talk only about things you ‘think’ your date will be interested in, the operative wording being ‘think’. If you have heard an interesting story you can ask her if she has heard about it. If not, tell her the basics of the story and leave it up for discussion.

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