In the age of metrosexual fashioning and television psychiatry, the notion of what is manly has become rather tangled.
Women now expect you to have a delicate side and not to be afraid of showing it.
Yet there are still times when a woman expects some old-fashioned, testosterone-fueled male behavior, when you can feel free to let out the entire clichéd boastfulness you’d normally suppress as a modern man.
Essentially, there are times when she wants you to act like a man. Definitely, a guy who acts that way all the time perhaps has some issues with self-esteem or status.
But in small doses at the appropriate times, acting manly is admirable.
When confronting a stranger
Whether he stepped on her foot in a jam-packed club or made a impolite comment, if a stranger is bad-mannered to your lady, he deserves a talking-to. Act like a man, speak up and assert that he apologize for his wrongdoing. In most cases, the stranger will say sorry and move on. Although your girlfriend is impeccably capable of standing up for herself, she’ll appreciate that you care enough to make sure she is treated properly. Remember, a gentleman resorts to using his fists in conflict only in extreme conditions.
Using the best of your masculine qualities in the workplace will ensure that you will be appreciated by colleagues and superiors. Stand up for yourself and your ideas. Learn how to connect without being confrontational. When it comes time to ask for that raise or promotion, keep your head held high while you highlight your value to the company. Self-confidence and eloquence will go a long way to helping you reach your career goals and making your family proud.
When tradition calls
Manhood and meat go hand in hand. Even a man who is a desperate cook should be able to take command of the grill or carve up a turkey in front of drooling guests. Performing traditional, masculine tasks like these allows you to amp up the manliness without being obnoxious. People expect the man of the house to pick up the carving tools and, as long as you do a decent job, no one will question your right to wield them.
Acting like a man in the bedroom is not all about taking charge and being the initiator. Being “the man” when it comes to sex means making sure your woman is taken care of in terms of her pleasure. A man isn’t afraid to take his time to do a job right, and that’s never truer than it is between the sheets. It’s also manly to learn how to be your very best at something and the easiest way to be the best lover you can be is to ask for her feedback and use what you’ve learned.
Be a man
Some of your masculine propensities may be frowned upon among the civilized (crushing beer cans on your forehead impresses no one outside a fraternity house), but there are times when acting like a man is called for and encouraged. Don’t confuse being a man with being a jerk. A real man functions with esteem and respect for the people in his life.