Women naturally have a “fear of the unknown,” and explained why you should lay out the plan rather than ask permission and make vague suggestions. It’s all about making her feel comfortable and willing to go with your flow.
If your intent is to bring her home at the end of this date, then be aware that she has a HUGE fear of the unknown when it comes to your residence. Is it clean? Is it ridiculously far away? Do you have some weirdo roommate who’s going to drool when he sees her?
Getting her back to your place, at the end of the night, is much easier if you lay the right groundwork. The best way to do it? Show here where you live before you go on the date!
It’s easy. Tell her the plan is this: she’ll come over to your place at the time you specify, and then you’ll ride together in your car (to the restaurant, bar, wherever you plan on taking her tonight). Women actually like this idea.
Why? First of all, they’re nosy! They want to get a glimpse of the exterior of your pad, so they can get a better sense of you and your lifestyle. (I’ve never had a woman turn me down when I tell her to meet me outside at my place so that I can drive her to the spot in my car.)
Also remember, women are not comfortable with driving around and trying to find some restaurant/bar/etc they’ve never been to before. She’d rather ride shotgun in your car and let you run the show. In her mind, if the date doesn’t go so well, you’ll simply bring her back to your place, she’ll hop in her car, and that’s the end of the night.
Here’s where the strategy comes in. When she pulls up in her car outside your place, you come outside as if you’re ready to head out on the date—but then you act like you forgot something inside. You say to her, “I’m sorry, I forgot I need to do something inside…come in for a minute.”
(You are laying out the plan. Not asking permission.)
So, she comes inside with you. Now, you go into the other room and pretend to do whatever…sending an email to someone, feeding your dog, it doesn’t matter.