You’ve finally asked that beautiful girl on a date and she in fact said yes! But don’t get too relaxed just yet because now it’s time for the tough part. Regardless of whatever initial interest she might have, you will still have to take some time to plan out your first date accordingly.
First dates are a spring of anxiety for many, but with a bit of planning you can get a great chance to get to know one another. You might have an urge to go all-out and impress her socks off, but sometimes all you need is a good date destination, and you can let your traits do the rest.
First Date Tip #1 Never ask your date what to do on your first date. As you know, the difficult part was asking the girl out on the date in the first place. You are lucky she answered in the affirmative, so do not start making mistakes at this early part of what may grow into a wonderful relationship. Most girls do not want to have to worry about planning out the evening.
First Date Tip #2 This is the right thing to do. The girl would like you to be in charge, and not ask her what she wants to do. What she wants to do is whatever you have taken the time to plan for the evening. Do not dishearten her. Take the initiative so that the only thing she has to do is enjoy herself.
First Date Tip #3 Now that that is established, you would like to know for yourself what to do on a first date. Although there are many options, a quiet restaurant should not be one of them. The silence in the establishment will translate into tongue-tied moments where both of you think you should say something smart, but neither of you will be able to think of anything to say.
First Date Tip #4 Once the food was served, one of you may begin to feel self conscious about the other one being able to hear you eat. The strain will become nearly intolerable, and the gauche throat clearing will sound very loud.
First Date Tip #5 If you choose to take her out to a restaurant, take her to a lively place where you can both point out the various foibles of some of the patrons. This breaks the ice and lightens the mood, and all of the sound from the action will ensure there are no ill at ease and silent moments.
First Date Tip #6 If you have your own place, invite her over for a dinner that you will cook. This gives her a chance to check out your house, and draw a few more optimistic opinions of you. You will feel calm, because you are at home and more of your personality will come out in a natural manner. If you are not a good cook, that does not matter.
First Date Tip #7 In the meantime you are able to pick out music to listen to, change the music she does not care for, serve her a drink, and explain the photos and posters that adorn your house. While you are doing this, you will have to keep returning to the kitchen to make sure everything is cooking properly, and as expected.
This makes you very busy, and lets her enjoy your company in bits and pieces while she continues to check out everything else. The best part is that even if you ruin the dinner, she will not care, because nothing is more sweet than a guy cooking, or trying to cook, for his date.
If the meal is ruined, it will give you both plenty to laugh about, so either way, it is going to work out for both of you. After the great meal, or lousy meal, taking a walk around the neighborhood is the perfect evening topper for a first date.
There are no awkward pauses in conversation, because there is something happening around you the whole time. There is always something to comment on during a walk together, and you will be surprised by how much you learn about each other after just a few blocks.
Here is what you should avoid doing. Do not worry about whether she will be insulted if you act like a gentleman and open doors for her. Men who worry over that are perceived as weak.
First Date Tip #8 Be chivalrous, by all means. Open doors, pull out chairs, and when you drop her off at her house, do not leave until you see that she is safe inside. Behaving like a gentleman is first on the list of what to do on a first date.
So there is no need to try too hard or make a connection if it just isn’t there. With these tips in mind and a little luck, you will be well on your way to that coveted second date.
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