Dating is an affair of the soul and should be treated as such. It is fun to date but it is also stern business. However, when we date, it is true that we do like a challenge, we like to get the guy, and we like to get the gal. It makes us feel good about ourselves to date someone lovely and so it would be unfair not to talk about challenge in dating.

We often like to go for someone just out of reach that is a dare. As humans with ambition, we like to reach and strive upwards. Therefore, dating someone we view as slightly out of our league (for a million reasons) is all the more attractive. This could be someone wealthy, or in a good job, or someone who is simply not usually our ‘type’.

It is interesting how we are able to adapt ourselves to this level of interest in people we may not usually consider, when we are dating. Generally we will stick to people in our own communal strata as we are more contented here and we will date those people who we generally have done in the past. After all, it is where we feel subconsciously that we belong.

Yet every now and again a challenge presents itself. You see a guy who you really fancy, someone you could really go for but someone who may not normally go for a girl (or guy) like you. As a guy you see a girl who would not take a second glance at you. The challenge is set. Challenges are healthy because they take us out of our comfort zone and allow us to grow as human beings. They also give us confidence, especially when we succeed in our challenge.

Who doesn’t want to date a supermodel or a male superstar? It’s a natural part of fantasy to strive for what we perceive as perfection. Reality may be different but it doesn’t prevent us from taking on challenges occasionally. However it is fair to say, that in reality we won’t date the superstars and even if we did, we would probably not enjoy it half so much anyway.

Challenges in dating will always be with us, they are a usual part of our psyche in us wanting to obtain something and someone we feel is out of our reach. When dating make sure that you are not someone else’s trial and be a little careful. If you yourself are seeking a dating challenge then at least have the esteem to date the person properly once they finally say yes to your attractions.

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