First dates can be nerve racking. This is a time when you want to make a good impression, but don’t want to pretend to be someone you’re not. You want to talk about yourself and learn about your date. You want to immediately find out if this person is the love of your life, which is of course impossible.
Start out with your restaurant of choice. It may seem like a cliché, but going out to eat is really a good idea for a first date. It doesn’t matter how classy or inexpensive or what type of restaurant, but eating out and talking with others is a lifetime activity.
You want to make sure you and your date are good at it. You should certainly sit across from the person, you don’t want them getting too comfortable, too soon.
This also allows for eye contact, where you can oftentimes gauge honesty.
This time will allow you both to talk about yourselves, have eye contact, detect his or her stances, find out if he/she tips wait staff and to see what your dates eating habits are like.
Next, go to a heavily occupied place. An outdoor performance, bowling, a large party or any place where there will be a lot of people. You will get to see how your date intermingles and reacts to people in general. This can show you a lot. Does he/she get ticked off when someone thumps into them, does he/she call them names or curse.
Does he/she talk harmfully about individuals in the crowd who don’t look like him/her or worse make racist statements about different groups of people? Is he/she naturally polite to older ones? If it’s a guy, does he open your door for you and/or hold the door for ladies while at the same time respecting you?
Does your date have roving eyes? When you go to a heavily populated place or event, there’s bound to be other attractive people there. Is your date checking out every nice looking face and body he/she sees? As you can see, going to a heavily populated place can provide you with a wealth of information, without you having to say a word. If he or she is truly a nice person, you will often times be enjoyably surprised, just by watching how your date relates and treats others.