Avoid Getting Shot Down: Common Approach Mistakes

Shot down again? Pay attention, it happens to the best of us.

But if it’s happening to you more often than not, then maybe you need some work on your approach so you’ll stop being forced to take a premature exit.

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So if you want to win a small amount of battles of your own, and take home a few trophies instead of Purple Hearts, stay away from making these frequent mistakes when approaching a woman.

Common Approach Mistake #1: Not Understanding Why She’s There

One of Sun Tzu’s most well-known quotes in his classic book of military strategy, “The Art of War,” is: “If you know your enemy and you know yourself, you shall not fear the outcome of 100 battles.”

So quick question to see how well you know her and know yourself: Why do most guys go out to bars with their buddies? Right, to look for women and try to hook up. Now, why do most women go out to bars with their girlfriends? Not to meet guys and hook up, but first and foremost, to have a good time.

See the problem? She’s looking for enjoyment and thrill, and you’re interrupting that with your pick up attempt that she sees as an assault of her good time.

And when choosing between fun with her friends and some guy’s lame effort at a pick up, she’ll choose fun. So instead of trying to hit on her, let her know immediately that you not only want in on the fun, but you’re there to add to her good time.

Common Approach Mistake #2: Falling prey to The Panhandler Syndrome

Ever have a panhandler ask you for spare change? If that happens once in a while, most of us are willing to dig into our pockets and provide the downtrodden with some coins to get them something to eat. But if that were to happen five, 10, 15 or even 20 times a day?

Everyday? By the time that fifth or sixth guy walked up, he would barely get out, “Pardon me, sir, but could you…” before you gave him an abrupt “I don’t have any friggin’ change!” and walked away.

It’s the same with women. You think you’re the first guy to hit on her today? According to one study, an eye-catching woman can be subjected to dozens of pick up attempts, come ons, sexual innuendo and outright ogling every single day.

So by the time you see her in the bar that night, and you hit her with your common, dull or noticeable pick up line, she sees you as just another panhandler that day, begging for a date.

Instead, be exceptional. Be appealing. Get her to want to talk to you, and you won’t be seen as a guy with a sign that reads, “Will buy you drinks for conversation.” And that brings us to number 3….

Common Approach Mistake #3: Buying her a drink

Ever heard a “pick up artist” (or even your buddy) say that you should never buy a woman a drink? It’s one of those well-liked I-know-what-to-do-to-get-a-woman pieces of advice guys throw around to sound like they have game.

 The truth is, they’re right. You should never buy a woman a drink

1 – Saying “Can I buy you a drink?” or sending one over, then nodding and smiling, isn’t intelligent, unique, thrilling, enjoyable, or anything else that a woman looks for. She’s heard it before, and if you approach the same way as every other boring, uninteresting guy she has shot down, you’re gonna get shot down too. Right after she finishes her drink.

2 – The minute you buy her a drink, you’re no longer that fascinating guy she wanted to meet and talk to; you instantly become “Just another guy trying to get into my pants.” And that’s not a good category to be in.

3 – This is the big one. This is the one women have told me is the reason that actually makes them hate when a guy sends over a drink: because now they feel compelled to talk to you. You expect a conversation because you have bought their time. And I don’t have to tell you that when a woman feels she has to do something, as opposed to wanting to do something, you’re in for a rough time.

Bottom line, there are at least those three reasons not to buy a woman a drink, and not too many on the positive side. Hedge your bets. Use a different approach.

Common Approach Mistake #4: Approaching her like a dude

Body language is something not a lot of us pay attention to, especially our own. Sure, we know what it means when someone has their arms crossed in front of them or when she absentmindedly plays with her hair, but did you know that just the way you walk up to a woman can trigger her defenses and put her off?

Common Approach Mistake #5: Failing her Shit Tests

All women will Shit Test you. That’s when she’s deliberately bad-mannered or bitchy just to see how you react. To see if you’ll roll over and show your belly like a moodle (that’s a man-poodle), or if you’ll do whatever it takes to prove you’re a Nice Guy. And we all know Nice Guys go home alone.

Some Shit Tests will come fast and hard: “I don’t talk to strangers, and you’re pretty strange…” and some will be more subtle: “Um, where’d you get that shirt?” But the object is always the same — to see if you’re man enough, quick enough, humorous enough or have enough back bone, to warrant her spending any more time talking to you.

Ever wonder why Bad Boys always get the girl? Part of the reason is they don’t fail Shit Tests.

Because they don’t really care what she thinks of the shirt they’re wearing. And they’re not afraid to tell her. If she’s not okay with that, then screw her, they’ll talk to someone else.

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